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Fatherhood: Having a new babyFFatherhood: Having a new babyFatherhood: Having a new babyEnglishNeonatologyNewborn (0-28 days);Adult (19+)NANANAAdult (19+)NA2009-10-18T04:00:00ZHazel Pleasants, ​RN, MNAndrew James, MBChB, FRACP, FRCPC9.0000000000000061.00000000000001100.00000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>Learn about some of the fears a new father might experience once their baby is born. Relationship stress, lifestyle changes, and financial stress are discussed.</p><p>You may feel conflicting emotions after the birth of your baby. First and foremost, the birth of a child brings with it an overwhelming, all-consuming love, like nothing you have ever experienced before. You may also feel proud and powerful at having created a new life. You also may feel helpless when you can’t understand why your baby is crying. You may feel ambivalent towards your newborn baby, like you don’t really know them. You might worry about being a good father, your relationship with your partner, your finances, and the impact your newborn baby will make on your lifestyle. </p><h2>Key points</h2> <ul><li>Fathers can experience multiple concerns about having a new baby, including concerns about being a good father, their relationship with their partner, lifestyle and finances.</li></ul>
Paternité: après la naissance d'un bébéPPaternité: après la naissance d'un bébéPaternité: après la naissance d'un bébéFrenchNeonatologyNewborn (0-28 days);Adult (19+)NANANAAdult (19+)NA2009-10-18T04:00:00ZHazel Pleasants, ​RN, MNAndrew James, MBChB, FRACP, FRCPC9.0000000000000061.00000000000001100.00000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>Apprenez-en davantage sur les craintes des nouveaux pères après la naissance du bébé. On y discute des tensions relationnelles, des changements au style de vie et des pressions financières.</p><p>Vous pourriez ressentir des émotions conflictuelles après la naissance de votre bébé. Tout d’abord, la naissance d’un enfant amène avec elle un amour inconditionnel et absolu, comme vous n’en avez jamais ressenti avant. Vous pourriez vous sentir fier et puissant d’avoir créé une nouvelle vie. Vous pourriez aussi vous sentir impuissant lorsque vous ne pouvez comprendre les pleurs de votre bébé. Vous pourriez éprouver des sentiments ambivalents envers votre nouveau-né, comme si vous ne le connaissiez pas vraiment. Vous pourriez vous inquiéter d’être un bon père, de votre relation avec votre partenaire, de vos finances et de l’impact que votre nouveau-né aura sur votre style de vie. </p><h2>À retenir</h2> <ul><li>Les pères peuvent ressentir plusieurs inquiétudes face à l’arrivée d’un nouveau bébé, dont des préoccupations sur la façon d’être un bon père, leur relation avec leur partenaire ainsi que sur leur style de vie et leurs finances.</li></ul>

 

 

Fatherhood: Having a new baby452.000000000000Fatherhood: Having a new babyFatherhood: Having a new babyFEnglishNeonatologyNewborn (0-28 days);Adult (19+)NANANAAdult (19+)NA2009-10-18T04:00:00ZHazel Pleasants, ​RN, MNAndrew James, MBChB, FRACP, FRCPC9.0000000000000061.00000000000001100.00000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>Learn about some of the fears a new father might experience once their baby is born. Relationship stress, lifestyle changes, and financial stress are discussed.</p><p>You may feel conflicting emotions after the birth of your baby. First and foremost, the birth of a child brings with it an overwhelming, all-consuming love, like nothing you have ever experienced before. You may also feel proud and powerful at having created a new life. You also may feel helpless when you can’t understand why your baby is crying. You may feel ambivalent towards your newborn baby, like you don’t really know them. You might worry about being a good father, your relationship with your partner, your finances, and the impact your newborn baby will make on your lifestyle. </p><h2>Key points</h2> <ul><li>Fathers can experience multiple concerns about having a new baby, including concerns about being a good father, their relationship with their partner, lifestyle and finances.</li></ul><h2>Concerns for after the baby arrives</h2><p>Some new fathers feel very isolated after the birth of their baby. They may feel abandoned and unloved by their partner. In response to the new "competition" from the baby, fathers may start looking for escape routes. They may spend a lot of time engaged in a new hobby, work excessively long hours, or resort to drinking alcohol. Try not to fall into this trap. Talk things out with your partner and seek relationship counselling if necessary. If you find yourself feeling anxious, hopeless, or having difficulty concentrating, consider that you might have some sort of depression, and seek medical help. </p><h3>Concern about being a good father</h3><p>Raising a baby can be scary. You may feel unsure about your abilities to care for your newborn baby. But there are many tips that you can take to heart in order to ensure that you are the best father you can be. First, ask the hospital nurses to show you how to change, swaddle, and bathe your newborn baby. Make sure you leave the hospital knowing how to handle these activities. When you, your partner, and your newborn baby are settled at home, remember to practice, practice, practice. Change those diapers, comfort your baby, and trust your instincts. Make eye contact with your newborn baby when playing with her. Relax and enjoy your new baby. Play with and sing to her. </p><p>Sometimes people can come in the way of your spending time with your newborn baby. Your partner or mother-in-law might not think you are capable of doing things properly. Your boss may expect you to continue putting in 60-hour weeks. If you have an old-fashioned father, they may somehow look down on you for changing diapers and helping in other ways. Stand your ground and make sure no one pushes you away from your newborn baby. Explain to your partner that you need to spend time alone with your baby; it is the best way to get to know your little one. Yes, you may do things differently from your partner, but that’s OK. When left to your own devices, you will quickly learn how to soothe and care for your newborn baby. </p><h3>Concern about your relationship with your partner</h3><p>Your relationship with your partner may start to suffer in these early weeks, because you no longer have time to spend with each other alone. The focus is entirely on your newborn baby now, and you barely have time to sleep. Try to spend even just a few minutes alone with your partner, talking about something other than your baby. </p><p>Above all, be careful about your expectations from your partner. After a hard day’s work, you may want dinner to be made and the house cleaned for the time you get home. However, things rarely work out that way when a baby arrives. Taking care of a newborn baby is serious work, as you no doubt will find out if you make time to spend with your baby alone. When you arrive home from work, try asking your partner about their day, and offer to take care of your baby so they can have a break. </p><h3>Concern about lifestyle changes</h3><p>Men sometimes worry about the lifestyle changes they will have to make when the baby comes along. You will need to get a little creative when it comes to social activities. Instead of going to the movies, you may need to start renting DVDs. Instead of romantic dinners for two, you and partner will gravitate toward family restaurants where you will feel comfortable if you bring your baby along. You may also find yourself drifting away from your friends who don’t have children, and making new friends with people who understand what you are going through. </p><h3>Concern about finances</h3><p>Fathers often worry what kind of financial impact the new baby will have on their lives. Many fathers lose sleep over whether they can afford to take care of a baby. This is a legitimate fear and yes, a new baby will make a financial dent. </p><p>Expenses add up very quickly when you have a new baby. If you were previously a two-income family, the financial strain of raising a baby on one income can be amplified. Many times, the mother’s attention becomes solely focused on the newborn baby, which leaves the father to worry about finances by themselves. Although the family finances are a joint responsibility, it is often the father who has to make tough decisions about financial priorities. This can lead to stress and conflicts in the marriage, as well as depression in some fathers. </p><p>However, there are many ways to save money when you have a little one, such as accepting hand-me-downs from friends and family, encouraging your partner to breastfeed instead of bottle feeding, and letting people know what items you do need for your newborn baby. </p><p>If you feel that financial difficulties are causing undue strain on your relationship with your partner, seek the advice of a marriage or relationship counsellor. If your problems with finances are causing you to feel depressed, seek medical help. </p><h2>Staying at home with your newborn baby</h2><p>Many families decide to have one parent stay at home, and usually the mother takes on that role. However, sometimes that arrangement won’t work. Maybe your partner makes more money or has a steadier job. Maybe they are just not interested in staying home. The number of stay-at-home fathers is rising every year. However, many stay-at-home fathers feel isolated, and sometimes women who stay home are not very welcoming to the stay-at-home father. Search out resources on the Internet and in print, which can help ease any feelings of isolation. If you do decide to stay home to raise your newborn baby, you will have a wonderful opportunity to get to know your child, and you will give your partner peace of mind at the same time. </p>https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/a_fathers_concerns_newborn.jpgFatherhood: Having a new baby

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