How to cope when your baby is very illHHow to cope when your baby is very illHow to cope when your baby is very illEnglishNeonatologyNewborn (0-28 days)NANASupport, services and resourcesAdult (19+)NA2009-10-28T04:00:00ZAndrew James, MBChB, MBI, FRACP, FRCPC9.0000000000000059.0000000000000452.000000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>Read about how to cope when your newborn baby is ill with a very serious health problem. Unavoidable conflict and coping strategies are discussed.</p><p>Whether parents know about a baby's congenital abnormality or other medical condition before or after birth, it can still be difficult to cope. There are many challenges that come with having a baby with a medical condition and it can put a strain on the relationship between parents.</p><h2>Key points</h2> <ul><li>Parents of a baby with a medical condition may benefit from counselling to help them cope with the difficulties and make decisions.</li></ul>
Comment composer avec un bébé très maladeCComment composer avec un bébé très maladeHow to cope when your baby is very illFrenchNeonatologyNewborn (0-28 days)NANASupport, services and resourcesAdult (19+)NA2009-10-28T04:00:00ZAndrew James, MBChB, MBI, FRACP, FRCPC9.0000000000000059.0000000000000452.000000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>Apprenez-en davantage sur comment composer avec un nouveau-né qui souffre d'un problème de santé grave. On y discute des conflits inévitables et des stratégies pour s'en sortir.</p><p>Que les parents connaissent l’anomalie congénitale, ou tout autre trouble médical, pendant la grossesse ou qu’ils l’apprennent après la naissance, il peut-être difficile de composer avec un bébé malade. Plusieurs défis accompagnent un bébé avec un trouble médical et cela peut altérer la relation entre les parents.</p><h2>À retenir</h2> <ul><li>Les parents d’un bébé atteint d’un trouble médical pourraient recevoir le soutien d’un conseiller afin de les aider à composer avec les difficultés et de prendre des décisions.</li></ul>

 

 

How to cope when your baby is very ill473.000000000000How to cope when your baby is very illHow to cope when your baby is very illHEnglishNeonatologyNewborn (0-28 days)NANASupport, services and resourcesAdult (19+)NA2009-10-28T04:00:00ZAndrew James, MBChB, MBI, FRACP, FRCPC9.0000000000000059.0000000000000452.000000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>Read about how to cope when your newborn baby is ill with a very serious health problem. Unavoidable conflict and coping strategies are discussed.</p><p>Whether parents know about a baby's congenital abnormality or other medical condition before or after birth, it can still be difficult to cope. There are many challenges that come with having a baby with a medical condition and it can put a strain on the relationship between parents.</p><h2>Key points</h2> <ul><li>Parents of a baby with a medical condition may benefit from counselling to help them cope with the difficulties and make decisions.</li></ul><p>Some parents find out that their baby has a congenital abnormality or other medical problems while the baby is still in the womb. If the pregnancy continues with the expectation that the child will survive after birth with lifelong medical problems, the parents can try to prepare themselves for the challenging road that lies ahead. </p> <p>Other parents find out about their baby’s congenital abnormality at birth. For these parents, childbirth was expected to be a joyous event. Their baby’s birth defect has come with no warning. They face immediate shock when they first meet their baby. They may draw away in terror. Soon they will feel grief for the loss of the "perfect" baby they were expecting. </p> <p>Two parents can have drastically different reactions to having a baby with a birth defect. Some parents want absolutely nothing to do with the baby, and they may feel extremely resentful and upset. They may withdraw from their partner and refuse to visit the baby. They may have difficulty looking at their baby and want to give them up for adoption. Other parents have a more positive outlook, and will stand by their baby no matter what the obstacles are. They feel outraged at the thought of placing the baby for adoption.</p> <p>When two parents have drastically different reactions to their baby, the scene is set for conflict and turmoil. Birth, which is supposed to be a joyous occasion, can sour relationships. Parents in this situation need a lot of help to work through their differences. If they have decided to keep the baby, they will need to rise above their differences in order to provide the best possible care for their little one. Relationship counselling can be very helpful under these circumstances. </p> <p>On the other hand, some parents work through their initial shock to comfort and support each other. They work together as a team to do the best for their baby. They may be frightened of the unknown but they simply need time adjust to their new situation. They still experience shock and sorrow that the baby is not "perfect" like they hoped, but they are able to focus on each other’s needs, and the needs of their baby. They realize that they need to move beyond their initial feelings of guilt and anger, in order to be there for their child. These parents see their baby as a joy and someone to be proud of. </p> <p>Raising a child is a long and challenging journey. It is also most rewarding. The birth of a baby with serious medical problems can cause unavoidable conflict between their parents. However, mutual respect, love, and sometimes relationship counselling can help them to cope with their new responsibilities. </p>https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/how_to_cope_when_your_baby_is_very_ill.jpgHow to cope when your baby is very ill

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