Disciplining your childDDisciplining your childDisciplining your childEnglishDevelopmentalChild (0-12 years);Teen (13-18 years)NANAHealthy living and preventionCaregivers Adult (19+)NA2010-05-13T04:00:00Z7.3000000000000059.10000000000001213.00000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>Discipline is about teaching knowledge and skill. Learn the benefits of positive discipline and some tips to use with your child at different ages.</p><h2>What is discipline?</h2> <p>Discipline is about changing your child's behaviour. Discipline is not about punishing children. It is not about forcing them to obey and follow directions. Discipline helps children learn to set limits. It helps them learn self-discipline. Fair and healthy discipline can help your child become an emotionally and socially mature adult. </p> <p>Positive discipline is based on trust, love, support, and respect. It is appropriate to the child's age and developmental stage. </p><h2>Key points</h2><ul><li>​Discipline is about changing your child’s behaviour, not about punishing children.</li><li>Effective discipline is done in a firm, fair, reasonable and consistent manner.</li><li>Positive reinforcement is an effective type of discipline and can be used to encourage wanted behaviour.​​</li></ul><h2>​Virtual care services for children<br></h2><p>Boomerang Health was opened by SickKids to provide communities in Ontario with greater access to community-based services for children and adolescents. For more information on virtual care services in Ontario to support parenting challenges, visit <a href="http://www.boomeranghealth.com/services/child-psychology/">Boomerang Health</a> powered by SickKids.<br></p>
Discipline: comment l'inculquer à votre enfantDDiscipline: comment l'inculquer à votre enfantDisciplining your childFrenchDevelopmentalChild (0-12 years);Teen (13-18 years)NANAHealthy living and preventionCaregivers Adult (19+)NA2010-05-13T04:00:00Z000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>La discipline a pour but d’inculquer des connaissances et des aptitudes. Découvrez les avantages de la discipline positive et certains conseils pour vous aider avec votre enfant à différents âges. <br></p><h2>Qu’est-ce que la discipline?</h2> <p>La discipline sert à modifier le comportement de votre enfant. La discipline ne vise pas nécessairement à punir l’enfant ni à le forcer à obéir et à suivre des ordres. La discipline aide les enfants à apprendre à établir des limites. Elles les aide à s’autodiscipliner. Une discipline juste et saine peut aider votre enfant à devenir un adulte mature sur le plan émotionnel et social. </p> <p>La discipline positive repose sur la confiance, l’amour, le soutien et le respect. Elle doit correspondre à l’âge et à l’étape du développement de l’enfant. </p><h2>À retenir</h2><ul><li>La discipline vise à modifier le comportement de votre enfant et non à le punir.</li><li>Une discipline efficace est dispensée d’une manière ferme, raisonnable et cohérente. </li><li>Le renforcement positif est un type de discipline efficace et peut être utilisé pour encourager le comportement désiré.</li></ul>

 

 

Parenting & life skillsParenting & life skillsParenting & life skillsPEnglishNAChild (0-12 years);Teen (13-18 years)NANAHealthy living and preventionCaregivers Adult (19+)NALanding PageLearning Hub<p>Learn about attachment, and the social and emotional development of babies. Explore topics such as bullying, anger management, resilience, puberty, sexuality and sleep.</p><p>Having a baby and starting a family is a wonderful experience, but it will also introduce a lot of changes into your life. Learn about attachment, and the social and emotional development of babies. Explore resources about topics such as bullying, anger management, general life skills such as resilience, puberty, sexuality and sleep.</p><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span><h2 class="panel-title">Attachment and emotions</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Attachment is the emotional tie between a baby and their caregiver. Learn about the different types of attachment and how a babies attachment develops over the first year of their life. Also learn about the social and emotional development of your child.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=739&language=English">Attachment part one: The dance of relationship</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=740&language=English">Attachment part two: Patterns of attachment</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=741&language=English">Attachment part three: Attachment across the life span</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=742&language=English">Attachment part four: Caregiver and child influences on attachment</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=743&language=English">Attachment part five: Attachment under adversity</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=744&language=English">Attachment part six: Implications of attachment theory: past, present, and future</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=502&language=English">Attachment and babies</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=505&language=English">Attachment: What you can do</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=503&language=English">Development of attachment</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=504&language=English">Your effect on your child's attachment</a></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span><h3>Emotional development</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=18&language=English">Anxiety: Overview</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=625&language=English">Promoting a positive body image</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=19&language=English">Depression: Overview</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=302&language=English">Psychological effects of disaster on children</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=487&language=English">Social and emotional development in babies</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=713&language=English">Social and emotional development in school-age children</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=499&language=English">Temperament</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=500&language=English">More about temperament</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=501&language=English">Temperament: What you can do</a></li></ol></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span><h2 class="panel-title">Bullying</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Bullying can occur anywhere and take on many different forms. Learn about the different types of bullying, what to look out for and how to help your child. Find some resources for parents on how to deal with aggression and bullying in preschoolers. </p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=303&language=English">Bullying</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=632&language=English">Facial difference: Confronting the challenges of bullying</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=736&language=English">Cyberbullying part one</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=737&language=English">Cyberbullying part two</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=738&language=English">Cyberbullying: Talking to your children</a></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span><h3>Resources</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="https://kids.aboutkidshealth.ca/player?title=kids-on-bullying">Just for Kids: Kids on bullying</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/PDF_PN_Tips_Preschool_Aggression.pdf">Parent tip sheet: Aggression in preschoolers</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/PDF_PN_Tips_Preschool_Bullying.pdf">Parent tip sheet: Preschool bullying</a></li></ol></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span><h2 class="panel-title">Behaviour management</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Find some tips on appropriate types of discipline for children at different ages. 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Also find some resources that will help explain puberty to your child. </p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=624&language=English">Puberty in boys</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=623&language=English">Puberty in girls</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=299&language=English">Menstruation</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=300&language=English">Menstruation and developmental disability: Advice for parents of adolescent girls</a></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span><h3>Resources</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="https://pie.med.utoronto.ca/htbw/module.html?module=sex-development">How the Body Works: Sex development</a></li><li class="list-group-item"><a class="overview-links" href="https://kids.aboutkidshealth.ca/player?title=puberty">Just for Kids: Puberty</a></li></ol></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span><h2 class="panel-title">Relationships and sexuality</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Learn how to talk to your child about sex and relationships. 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Disciplining your child714.000000000000Disciplining your childDisciplining your childDEnglishDevelopmentalChild (0-12 years);Teen (13-18 years)NANAHealthy living and preventionCaregivers Adult (19+)NA2010-05-13T04:00:00Z7.3000000000000059.10000000000001213.00000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>Discipline is about teaching knowledge and skill. Learn the benefits of positive discipline and some tips to use with your child at different ages.</p><h2>What is discipline?</h2> <p>Discipline is about changing your child's behaviour. Discipline is not about punishing children. It is not about forcing them to obey and follow directions. Discipline helps children learn to set limits. It helps them learn self-discipline. Fair and healthy discipline can help your child become an emotionally and socially mature adult. </p> <p>Positive discipline is based on trust, love, support, and respect. It is appropriate to the child's age and developmental stage. </p><h2>Key points</h2><ul><li>​Discipline is about changing your child’s behaviour, not about punishing children.</li><li>Effective discipline is done in a firm, fair, reasonable and consistent manner.</li><li>Positive reinforcement is an effective type of discipline and can be used to encourage wanted behaviour.​​</li></ul><h2>The trouble with spanking</h2><p>Discipline means to teach knowledge or skill. In our society, discipline is often linked with punishment. You may have been spanked as a child. Some cultures support spanking. Yet, the <a href="http://www.cps.ca/">Canadian Paediatric Society </a>(CPS) strongly discourages spanking and other forms of physical punishment. The CPS believes that spanking results in negative child outcomes. Spanking can lead to feelings of shame. It can cause loss of trust.</p><h2>When to use discipl​ine</h2><p>Raising a child requires patience. Certain stages of development require a more focused discipline approach. Mealtimes, <a href="/article?contentid=636&language=English">toilet training</a>, and <a href="/article?contentid=646&language=English">bedtime</a> require creative methods of discipline.</p><p>Effective discipline means to teach your children with mutual respect. It should be done in a firm, fair, reasonable, and consistent manner. Raising children can be stressful. Parents might need to take their own "time-outs" so as to not lose their <a href="/article?contentid=301&language=English">tempers</a>.</p><h2>Positive reinforcement</h2><p>Positive reinforcement is a very effective type of discipline. It may be more effective than punishment. Positive reinforcement can be enjoyable for parent and child.</p><p>Positive reinforcement is used to encourage wanted behaviour. If you find your child acting appropriately, take notice. Praise them for it. The praise for good behaviour is positive reinforcement. It may encourage good behaviour in the future. On the other hand, punishment acknowledges negative behaviour. </p><p>Sometimes punishment is necessary. However, excessive punishment can make your child feel more <a href="/article?contentid=18&language=English">anxious</a>, helpless, or angry.</p><h2>Tips on disciplining your child</h2><h3>Babies (birth to 12 months)</h3><p>Babies respond well to schedules and routines.</p><p>In the later months, you can help your baby learn to tolerate frustration better by not picking them up right away when they cry.</p><p>In the later months, let your baby fall asleep by themselves. This will encourage self-soothing.</p><h3>Younger toddlers (1 to 2 years)</h3><p>This is when your child will start to exercise their own will. Be patient. Discipline at this stage can help keep your child safe. It can also help to limit physical or verbal aggression. </p><p>Since your child is not mature enough to understand simple verbal directions, you need to use actions along with your words. For example, if your child is touching a fragile object on the shelf, say a firm "No." Then redirect your child to another room or another object. Stay with your child, so your child is not scared of being abandoned.</p><h3>Older toddlers (2 to 3 years)</h3><p>This stage is called "the terrible two's" for a reason. Your child is struggling for independence. They get frustrated when realizing their limits. This can lead to temper tantrums. Patience, again, is needed. Help your child by showing empathy to their efforts. Supervise and set limits.</p><p>Simple verbal directions are not enough. Follow every verbal instruction with a change of location or an example of what is acceptable. </p><h3>Pre-schoolers and kindergarten-age children (3 to 5 years)</h3><p>At this stage, your child responds well to consistency and role models. They can follow verbal rules more easily, but still needs supervision for safety. The child will model their own behaviour after parents and teachers. Use approval and praise to motivate your child and reinforce behaviour that you want. "Time-outs" can be used if your child loses control.</p><h3>Time-outs </h3><p>Attention, even if it involves punishment, may actually reward a child. It may reinforce inappropriate behaviour. Time-outs keep a child from getting this attention. </p><p>Time-outs need to be given consistently. They should be given without emotion. Pick the right place. It should not be near a TV, computer, or other forms of entertainment. Time-outs should last about 1 minute per year of the child's age, to a maximum of 5 minutes. Have a clock nearby. Tell your child exactly how much time they have in the time-out area. Connect the inappropriate behaviour with the time-out. Say something like, "You are in time-out because you hit your sister." Ignore your child while they are in time-out. </p><p>After the time-out is over, create a fresh start. Do not discuss the unwanted behaviour. Just move on. Time-out will not end the unwanted behaviour. However, it may make it happen less often. </p><h3>School-age children (6 to 12 years)</h3><p>At this stage, your child is embracing their independence. They are spending more time with friends or at school. Parents can supervise, be good role models, and apply consistent rules. Appropriate forms of discipline include removal or delay of privileges (such as no Internet or television use for a day), time-out, and consequences. </p><p>Where possible, consequences should be ‘logical' or ‘natural'. An example of a logical consequence would be: "You are behaving as if you are tired so you will be going to bed ½ hour early tonight."</p><p>An example of a natural consequence would be to let your child's hands get a little cold if they refused to bring their mitts (but keep the mitts handy). </p><p>It is important that children understand the rules. If an unwanted behaviour is recurrent, tell your child what the logical consequence will be before it happens again.</p><p>It is also important that your child takes you seriously. Your child will not take you seriously if you give empty threats. For example, if you told your child that they are going to bed early, come bedtime if they don't go to bed early, your direction will be less effective next time around.</p><h3>Teenagers (13 to 18 years)</h3><p>The teenage years can be challenging. The experience will depend on how parents respond to the child's personal growth. Here are some tips:</p><ul><li>Communicate with your teen.</li><li>Stay available and accessible.</li><li>Keep rules in a fair and consistent manner.</li><li>Do not belittle or over-criticize your teen.</li><li>Avoid lecturing or predicting disasters.</li></ul><p>A helpful discipline technique is making verbal contracts with your teenager. Make sure that basic rules are followed. Set logical consequences. For example, if your teen damages the car, the consequence could be that the teenager has to pay for the repairs. This teaches responsibility and accountability. </p><h2>Other tips on setting rules and applying consequences</h2><ul><li>Praise positive behaviour whenever you can.</li><li>Avoid making threats without consequences.</li><li>Be consistent when applying rules.</li><li>Pick your battles. Ignore unimportant behaviour.</li><li>Set reasonable limits.</li><li>Accept age-appropriate behaviour.</li><li>Apply consequences right away with younger children.</li><li>Be as unemotional as possible when setting consequences.</li><li>Do not shout or scream at your child.</li><li>Show your child love and trust after the consequences. This way, your child will know that the correction is aimed at the unwanted behaviour and not at them personally.</li></ul> <br><h2>​Virtual care services for children<br></h2><p>Boomerang Health was opened by SickKids to provide communities in Ontario with greater access to community-based services for children and adolescents. For more information on virtual care services in Ontario to support parenting challenges, visit <a href="http://www.boomeranghealth.com/services/child-psychology/">Boomerang Health</a> powered by SickKids.<br></p><img alt="" src="https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/disciplining_your_child.jpg" style="BORDER:0px solid;" />https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/disciplining_your_child.jpgDisciplining your childFalse