| Suicide and self-harm: Helping your child understand difficult emotions | 293.000000000000 | Suicide and self-harm: Helping your child understand difficult emotions | Suicide and self-harm: Helping your child understand difficult emotions | S | English | Psychiatry | School age child (5-8 years);Pre-teen (9-12 years);Teen (13-18 years) | Body | NA | Conditions and diseases | Caregivers
Adult (19+) | NA | | 2016-02-10T05:00:00Z | | | | | | 9.40000000000000 | 62.1000000000000 | 931.000000000000 | | Health (A-Z) - Conditions | Health A-Z | <p>Find out how to reduce the risk of suicide and self-harm by helping your child cope with difficult emotions.</p> | <p>Thoughts of <a href="/Article?contentid=291&language=English">suicide</a> and <a href="/Article?contentid=289&language=English"> self-harm </a> can emerge when a child or teen feels overwhelmed by difficult emotions and can no longer endure them.</p><p>Everyday difficult emotions can include:</p><ul><li>sadness about not being invited to a friend's birthday party</li><li>fear or worry about starting at a new school or camp</li><li>anger and frustration when limits are set, for example screen time</li><li>shame when caught doing something wrong</li></ul><p>These, and similar, issues may not seem overwhelming to an adult but might be incredibly stressful for a child or teen. This is because they have less life experience and their brains are still developing, usually until their early 20s.</p><p>This makes it important for you as a parent or caregiver to acknowledge your child's emotions and encourage them to openly share their thoughts and feelings. Helping your child understand and talk about the emotions they experience in everyday life can help prepare them to better cope with more severe distress.</p> | <h2>How children express their emotions</h2>
<p>You may not always receive a clear message from your child about the emotions they are experiencing. Children often express emotions differently, depending on their developmental level.</p>
<p>Very young children may show their emotions through their behaviour or play. Older children may sometimes 'bottle up' or keep negative emotions inside. For instance, they may complain of aches and pains during times of stress but withdraw or respond with "I don't know" when asked how they feel. Other children might be outwardly irritable, aggressive or angry as a way to express their sadness or worry.</p> | <h2>Key points</h2>
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<li>It is important to talk to your child about how they feel about everyday ups and downs, even if they do not seem stressful to you, so that they are better prepared to deal with more severe distress. </li>
<li>Be aware of how your child expresses their emotions. Younger children may change their behaviour or play routine. Older children might bottle things up or 'act out' when really they are sad or worried.</li>
<li>When talking to your child, stay calm, remind them that all emotions are valid, ask direct questions about any thoughts of suicide or self-harm and offer help.</li>
<li>Talk to your child's doctor or another mental health professional if your child has ongoing difficulties with their emotions or you learn that your child's schoolwork or friendships are suffering.</li>
</ul> | | | | | | | | <h2>How to talk to your child about their emotions and any suicidal thoughts</h2>
<h3>Remember that feelings are not right or wrong</h3>
<p>You can help your child come to terms with difficult emotions they experience by reminding them that all emotions are normal. Emotions such as sadness, anger, anxiety, depression and shame are just as valid, and important, as joy, excitement and happiness. All these emotions – both positive and negative – communicate information.</p>
<h3>Be calm and supportive</h3>
<p>If you want to sit down and talk with your child, make sure it is at a time when neither you nor your child feels rushed or pressured.</p>
<p>Talk to your child in a calm and supportive manner. Always let them know that you are there for them, accept them and what they are going through and try to listen to how they are feeling without interrupting, arguing or correcting.</p>
<h3>Be specific and direct</h3>
<p>If you have noticed some behaviour that concerns you, be specific about it. For instance, you might say, "I notice you are spending more time in your room and aren't going out with your friends as much. I just want to check in on how you're doing."</p>
<p>If you have noticed some of the <a href="/Article?contentid=290&language=English">possible warning signs of suicidal thoughts</a>, ask your child directly about them. This tells them that it is ok to talk with you about their emotions. You might ask, for example, "Do you ever have feelings that you don't want to be here anymore?", "Do you ever wish you were dead?" or "Do you ever think about hurting yourself?"</p>
<h3>Offer help</h3>
<p>Ask your child what you can do to help them. For instance, do they want to spend more time talking with you or do they want to talk to a healthcare professional or counsellor? You can also ask if you can help them get more involved in the activities that they enjoy.</p>
<h3>Remind your child of the positives</h3>
<p>While it is important to give your child time to express their negative emotions, don't forget about the positives. Ask your child about what is going well in their life, and remind them of their strengths and of those who love them and are there for support.</p> | | <h2>When to seek medical help for your child's emotional difficulties</h2>
<p>If your child experiences strong emotions and they last longer, or are more intense, than what would generally be expected, it may be cause for concern.</p>
<p>It may be helpful to talk to a doctor or other mental health professional if:</p>
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<li>you are concerned that your child is having trouble with their emotions</li>
<li>other people in your child's life (teachers, friends, relatives) notice that stress is interfering with your child's schoolwork, friendships or involvement in activities</li>
</ul> | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | <h2>Further information</h2><p>For more information on protecting your child or teen from suicide or self-harm, please see the following pages:</p><p>
<a href="/Article?contentid=291&language=English">Suicide in children and teens: Overview</a></p><p>
<a href="/Article?contentid=289&language=English">Self-harm in children and teens: Overview</a></p><p>
<a href="/Article?contentid=290&language=English">Suicide risk: Signs and symptoms</a></p><p>
<a href="/Article?contentid=292&language=English">Suicide and self-harm: How to protect your child</a></p><h2>Resources</h2><p>In Canada, children and teens in distress can contact KidsHelpPhone on
<a href="http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/" target="_blank">KidsHelpPhone.ca</a> or call 1-800-688-6868.</p><p><a href="https://kidshelpphone.ca/get-info/how-do-i-talk-to-the-young-person-in-my-life-about-suicide/">How do I talk to the young person in my life about suicide?</a></p><p><a href="https://kidshelpphone.ca/get-info/stress-how-to-help-the-young-person-in-your-life/">Stress: How to help the young person in your life</a></p> | | <img alt="" src="https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/suicide_self_harm_helping_your_child.jpg" style="BORDER:0px solid;" /> | https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/suicide_self_harm_helping_your_child.jpg | | | | | | | Suicide and self-harm: Helping your child understand difficult emotions | | False | | | Coping with suicide and self-harm | Find out how to reduce the risk of suicide and self-harm by helping your child cope with difficult and overwhelming emotions. | | | | |
