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Attachment: What you can doAAttachment: What you can doAttachment and babies: What you can doEnglishNABaby (1-12 months)BodyNANAAdult (19+)NA2009-09-22T04:00:00ZBrenda S. Miles, PhD, Cpsych8.0000000000000067.0000000000000734.000000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>How to effectively foster a secure system of attachment in a baby or child. Providing warm memories, comfort and a sense of trust are discussed.</p><p>There are many things you can do make sure your child develops a secure attachment. Here are a few tips, as mentioned in the book <em>Pathways to Competence</em> by child development specialist Dr. Sarah Landy. </p><h2>Key points</h2> <ul><li>There are several ways to make sure your child develops a secure attachment including provide comfort; respond and notice; provide a sense of trust; review and re-enact experiences; create warm memories; provide a sense of security; and be predictable and positive.</li></ul>
L'attachement et les bébés : ce que vous pouvez faireLL'attachement et les bébés : ce que vous pouvez faireAttachment and babies: What you can doFrenchNABaby (1-12 months)BodyNANAAdult (19+)NA2009-09-22T04:00:00ZBrenda S. Miles, PhD, Cpsych8.0000000000000067.0000000000000734.000000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>Comment instaurer un bon système d’attachement chez un bébé ou un enfant. On y discute de l’établissement de bons souvenirs, d’un sens de confiance et du réconfort à apporter à votre enfant.</p><p>Il y a de nombreuses choses que vous pouvez faire pour vous assurer que votre enfant développe un attachement sûr. Voici quelques conseils, tirés du livre <em>Pathways to Competence</em> de la spécialiste en développement de l'enfant, Dre Sarah Landy.</p><h2>À retenir</h2> <ul><li>Il existe plusieurs façons de développer un attachement sécuritaire chez votre enfant : vous pouvez le réconforter, réagir et être à l’affût de ses besoin, lui instaurer un sentiment de confiance, examiner et revoir l’ensemble des expériences vécues, créer de bons souvenirs, instaurer un sentiment de sécurité et être prévisible et positif.</li></ul>

 

 

Attachment: What you can do505.000000000000Attachment: What you can doAttachment and babies: What you can doAEnglishNABaby (1-12 months)BodyNANAAdult (19+)NA2009-09-22T04:00:00ZBrenda S. Miles, PhD, Cpsych8.0000000000000067.0000000000000734.000000000000Flat ContentHealth A-Z<p>How to effectively foster a secure system of attachment in a baby or child. Providing warm memories, comfort and a sense of trust are discussed.</p><p>There are many things you can do make sure your child develops a secure attachment. Here are a few tips, as mentioned in the book <em>Pathways to Competence</em> by child development specialist Dr. Sarah Landy. </p><h2>Key points</h2> <ul><li>There are several ways to make sure your child develops a secure attachment including provide comfort; respond and notice; provide a sense of trust; review and re-enact experiences; create warm memories; provide a sense of security; and be predictable and positive.</li></ul><h2>Provide comfort</h2><p>As you grow with your baby, you will learn to read their signals and determine when they are in need of comfort. They may become upset if they are ill, frightened, physically hurt, or lonely. They will want you to reassure, rock, and hold them. If you can respond this way regularly and predictably, your baby will learn that they are safe when you are around. Be responsive, sensitive, and available, as much as you can. </p><h2>Respond and notice</h2><p>Your baby needs to know that they are important, and that you will respond to them. They need not only to be comforted when upset, but also to be given attention when needed. They want you to share moments with them and to help them with problems. Find activities that you both can enjoy. Spend time talking with and listening to them, asking them how they feel about things, and taking them places. Read stories, go for walks, and play games together. Show interest in your child’s activities and spend lots of one-on-one time with them. Tune into your child, and let them take the lead. Keep these activities warm and intimate, even if they are sometimes brief. </p><h2>Provide a sense of trust</h2><p>Strike a balance between ensuring your child is safe and encouraging them to explore the world in a trusting manner. Instill a sense of trust in your child by letting them know you believe in their ability to do things. Keep your home and environment as safe as possible, to allow your child to explore. Protect their independence without abandoning them. For example, when they learn to crawl or walk, you can let them go off a short distance, but make sure you remain nearby so they can return to you. </p><p>As your child gets older, they will need to be warned about stranger dangers, but do not expose them to terrifying accounts of tragic events or acts of violence on television. If your child does have a frightening experience, give them lots of support and talk about what happened. </p><h2>Review and re-enact experiences</h2><p>Talk with your child about things that have happened to them. As they get older, tell them stories about when they were small. Show them photos of when they were a baby, and answer any questions they may have. These memories can give them a sense of their past, and create a feeling of security. </p><p>If your child goes through a difficult event, talk to them about it. Review it, play it out, and discuss it when your child is willing and able to do so. This can help avoid nightmares and post-traumatic stress disorder. Even seemingly small events such as the birth of a sibling or a friend leaving town are important to children, and you should talk about these events with your child. If you are going through the same trauma as your child, you may not be able to talk about it. If this is the case, it is important to find appropriate treatment for your child in consultation with a health care professional. </p><h2>Create warm memories</h2><p>Keep good memories alive. Keep a photo album and look through it with your child. Maintain a collection of their crafts and artwork. Keep a diary of your child’s achievements. Make videos and keep a record of special events. Establish family traditions; they are important for instilling a sense of security and predictability in your child. </p><h2>Provide a sense of security</h2><p>Separations are important to fostering your child’s sense of attachment, but they need to be handled well. When leaving your child with someone else, establish a goodbye ritual and leave with confidence. Provide your child with some things to do while you are away. Give them a photo of yourself, a security blanket, or familiar toys to keep them calm. Let them know when you will return, and make sure to come back on time. </p><p>If your child is very upset about separating from you, try to integrate it gradually. Remain present during part of the first few days. </p><h2>Be predictable and positive</h2><p>Be as predictable as you can, to provide your child with an additional sense of security. Keep to a routine for meals, bedtime, and so on. Establish clear rules and follow through on them. Always comfort and soothe your child if they are ill, hurt, or scared. </p>https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/attachment_what_you_can_do.jpgAttachment: What you can do

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