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How to set limits (children up to 5 years of age)HHow to set limits (children up to 5 years of age)How to set limits (children up to 5 years of age)EnglishDevelopmentalBaby (1-12 months);Toddler (13-24 months);Preschooler (2-4 years)NANANAAdult (19+) CaregiversNA2020-06-19T04:00:00ZFlat ContentHealth A-Z<p>It is important to set limits with your child, starting at a young age. Learn about why children need limits, the challenges of limit setting and how to appropriately use consequences and time outs.</p><h2>Why do children need limits? </h2><p>Children need set limits for a number of reasons, including:</p><ul><li>To help make sure they are safe (e.g., don’t run into the road).</li><li>To help with certain activities (e.g., learning to socialize appropriately with others). </li><li>To optimize growth and development (e.g., sleeping through the night, eating nutritious meals). </li><li>To encourage self-regulation, which helps children calm themselves when they become frustrated or angry. Self-regulation helps with both little transitions (e.g., time for a nap) and big transitions (e.g., starting school).</li></ul><p>What you teach your child about limits will help them for the rest of their life. </p><div class="asset-video"> <iframe src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/WGsiQ5pF47o"></iframe> <br></div> <p></p><h2>Key points</h2><ul><li>Children need set limits for many reasons including to help make sure they are safe, to optimize growth and development and to encourage self-regulation.</li><li>The use of consequences helps teach children responsibility for their actions.</li><li>Time outs should only be used as a last resort; if a parent or caregivers uses time outs, they should use them in a consistent and structured way.</li></ul><div class="row"><div class="col-md-6"> <a href="https://www.sickkidsfoundation.com/podcast"> <img src="https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/foundation_banners/SKF%20Logo-%28Standard%29_New_Small_FINAL.jpg" alt="SickKids VS Podcast link" style="margin-top:1rem;" /> </a> <p></p></div><div class="col-md-6"><p>SickKids VS takes you to the frontlines in the fight for child health, where big questions drive big breakthroughs: Where do we start when a child’s disease is unknown? Can we heal the brain? How should we talk to kids about dying? Behind each quest, is a remarkable family and story. <a href="https://www.sickkidsfoundation.com/podcast">Listen now</a> and subscribe.</p><p><a href="https://www.sickkidsfoundation.com/podcast/parentstress_2">HOW DO WE HELP PARENTS HELP THEIR KIDS? SickKids VS Parent Stress (Part 2)</a></p></div></div> <h2>References and additional information</h2><p> <a href="https://www.cps.ca/en/documents/position/positive-parenting" target="_blank">How clinicians can support positive parenting in the early years (2019)</a></p><p> <a href="https://www.caringforkids.cps.ca/handouts/positive-discipline-for-young-children" target="_blank">Positive discipline for young children (2020) </a></p><p> <a href="/article?contentid=714&language=english">AboutKidsHealth: Disciplining your child </a></p><p> <a href="https://www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019/advice-for-public/healthy-parenting" target="_blank">World Health Organization (2020) </a></p><p> <a href="https://www.imhpromotion.ca/">Infant Mental Health Promotion</a></p><p> <a href="http://www.impactparenting.com/storage/post-docs/PRIDE%20handout.pdf" target="_blank">Building Blocks of Behaviour</a></p><p> <a href="https://www.cdc.gov/parents/essentials/communication/specialplaytime.html" target="_blank">Centers for Disease Control and Prevention: Special Play Time </a><br></p>

 

 

Neonatal Neurodevelopmental Follow-Up Clinic (NNFU)Neonatal Neurodevelopmental Follow-Up Clinic (NNFU)Neonatal Neurodevelopmental Follow-Up Clinic (NNFU)NEnglishNeonatology;DevelopmentalBaby (1-12 months);School age child (5-8 years);Toddler (13-24 months)NANAHealthy living and preventionAdult (19+) CaregiversNA2019-05-21T04:00:00ZLanding PageLearning Hub<p>The Neonatal Neurodevelopmental Follow-Up Clinic assesses babies who have been admitted to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) or Cardiac Critical Care Unit (CCCU) and may be at risk for developmental issues. Learn about what you can expect during your baby's development and how you can help your child acheive developmental milestones.</p><p>The Neonatal Neurodevelopmental Follow-Up Clinic assesses babies who have been admitted to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) or Cardiac Critical Care Unit (CCCU) and may be at risk for developmental issues. Learn about what you can expect during your baby's development and how you can help your child acheive developmental milestones.</p><div class="asset-video"> <iframe src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/videoseries?list=PLjJtOP3StIuXrJ0ypdfqOLS0PiUiOvKqx" frameborder="0"></iframe> </div><p>To view other AboutKidsHealth videos, please visit the <a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/Aboutkidshealth">AboutKidsHealth YouTube channel</a>.</p><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">About the Neonatal Neurodevelopmental Follow-Up Clinic</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>The following are general recommendations provided by the Neonatal Neurodevelopmental Follow-Up Clinic at SickKids to help promote motor skills, early language development and socialization.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3397&language=English">NNFU follow-up recommendations: Six week visit</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3031&language=English">NNFU follow-up recommendations: Four month visit</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3200&language=English">NNFU follow-up recommendations: Eight month visit</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3201&language=English">NNFU follow-up recommendations: 12 month visit</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3202&language=English">NNFU follow-up recommendations: 18 month visit</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3203&language=English">NNFU follow-up recommendations: 36 month visit</a></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Motor skills</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Learn about gross motor skills (such as rolling, crawling or walking) and fine motor skills (such as reach and grasp) and how you can help your child develop these skills.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Gross motor skills</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=486&language=English">Motor development: The first six months</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=483&language=English">Motor development: The next six months</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=296&language=English">Tummy time: Helping your baby </a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=947&language=English">Torticollis</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=946&language=English">Toe walking: Idiopathic</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Fine motor skills</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1879&language=English">Visuomotor skills</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1881&language=English">How to help: Visuomotor skills</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1880&language=English">When to worry about visuomotor skills</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1882&language=English">Resources for visuomotor skills</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=735&language=English">Writing and printing resources</a></li></ol></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Speech and language</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Parents and caregivers play an important role in helping children develop their speech and language skills. Learn how you can help your child and when to worry.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Speech and language development</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1891&language=English">Speech and language</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1892&language=English">Development of speech and language</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=485&language=English">Hearing and communication in the first year</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=732&language=English">Speech and language milestones</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1894&language=English">How to help speech and language</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1702&language=English">Speech and language for children with heart disease</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3896&language=English">Early language development in babies and toddlers</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3899&language=English">Tips for language development at 18 months</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3897&language=English">Tips for language development at 3 years</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3895&language=English">Babbling with your child</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Speech and language: When to worry</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=731&language=English">Speech and language problems</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1893&language=English">When to worry about speech and language</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Speech and language resources</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1895&language=English">Resources for speech and language</a></li></ol></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Sensory development</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Learn about the sensory systems, sensory development and how your baby may be influenced by sensation. </p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3881&language=English">Sensory development and suggestions for babies</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3890&language=English">Sensory development and activities for children</a></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Learning and thinking</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Find out how babies and young children learn and think, and how you can encourage creativity and curiosity in your child.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Learning to think</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=488&language=English">Cognitive development in babies</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=489&language=English">The first six months</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=490&language=English">The next six months</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1887&language=English">Learning and education in premature babies</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Learning through play</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=627&language=English">Creativity: How to raise a creative thinker</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=628&language=English">Curiosity: How to nurture the urge to know more</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=649&language=English">Spatial reasoning: How to foster in children</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Healthy screen time</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=643&language=English">Screen time: An overview</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=644&language=English">Healthy screen time limits</a></li></ol></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Sleep</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Getting a consistent good night's sleep is important for babies and children to grow. Proper sleep will help your child become a creative thinker, concentrate on tasks and have better problem-solving abilities.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=645&language=English">Sleep benefits and recommended amounts</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=447&language=English">Sleep time for newborns</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=646&language=English">Sleep tips: How to help your child get a good night's sleep</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=306&language=English">Sleep problems</a></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Feeding and nutrition</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Proper nutrition is important to help your baby or child grow. Some children may also need special nutritional care depending on their age and condition.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Health and nutrition</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1436&language=English">Canada's food guide</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1439&language=English">Protein foods</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1967&language=English">Vegetarian child</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1994&language=English">Teeth: Dental care for children</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Nutrition for babies</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1457&language=English">Understanding your baby's feeding cues</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1197&language=English">Energy boosting during baby's first year</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=633&language=English">Phasing out nighttime feedings</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=635&language=English">Breastfeeding: Weaning and withdrawing your milk supply</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=497&language=English">Introducing solids</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1458&language=English">Introducing new textures</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=31&language=English">Gag reflex</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Nutrition for toddlers</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1460&language=English">Feeding your toddler or preschooler</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1461&language=English">Drinks for your toddler or preschooler</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Nutrition for children</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1465&language=English">Involving kids in mealtime prep</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1466&language=English">Healthy food and drink choices </a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Nutrition for specific conditions</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1975&language=English">EA/TEF and feeding</a></li></ol></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Behaviour</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>All babies and children behave differently. Learn what you can expect as your child grows, and what you can do to help your child with behavioural and learning issues.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=445&language=English">Newborn baby behaviour</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=487&language=English">Social and emotional development in babies</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1883&language=English">Effects of prematurity</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1948&language=English">How to help your child understand and cope with their emotions</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3879&language=English">Tips for positive parenting and managing behaviour in children up to age 5</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=3880&language=English">How to set limits (children up to 5 years of age)</a></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Behaviour issues and disorders</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1870&language=English">Behavioural and learning issues</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=2001&language=English">Behavioural disorders: How to help your child at home</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=714&language=English">Disciplining your child</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Temperament</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=499&language=English">Temperament</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=500&language=English">More about temperament</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=501&language=English">Temperament: What you can do</a></li></ol></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Transitioning to school</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Having your child start school is stressful for most parents, especially if you're concerned about how your child will adjust. Learn what parents and caregivers can do to help make their child's transition to school easier for everyone.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Going to school</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1154&language=English">Advocating for your child at school</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=711&language=English">Cognitive development in school-age children</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=2002&language=English">Assessing your child for neuropsychological difficulties</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1889&language=English">Back in the classroom</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1876&language=English">Becoming more independent</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Talking to your child's school</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1145&language=English">Talking to your child's school</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=1146&language=English">Communicating with others about your child's needs</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=650&language=English">Congenital heart defects: Information for teachers</a></li></ol></li></ol></div><div class="panel panel-primary"><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Maternal and family health</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>Having a baby can be a big adjustment for you and your family. Learn about adjusting to your new baby, managing relationship stress and the development of attachment between caregivers and baby.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Adjusting to your newborn</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=450&language=English">Adjusting to your newborn baby</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=334&language=English">The expecting father</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=452&language=English">Fatherhood: Having a new baby</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="/Article?contentid=418&language=English">Baby blues and postpartum depression</a></li></ol></li><li><div 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panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h2 class="panel-title">Community resources</h2></div><div class="panel-body list-group" style="display:none;"><p>In this section, find links to even more information about child health and development, as well as links to resources for community programming, research and funding.</p></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Dentist</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="https://www.ontario.ca/page/get-dental-care">Teeth cleaning, check-ups and dental treatment for kids (Ontario)</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Vision</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="https://optom.on.ca/">Ontario association of optometrists</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="http://www.children.gov.on.ca/htdocs/English/earlychildhood/blindnesslowvision/index.aspx">Blindness and low vision (Ontario)</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Hearing</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="http://www.children.gov.on.ca/htdocs/English/earlychildhood/hearing/index.aspx">Infant Hearing Program (Ontario)</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Development</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> 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class="overview-links" href="https://www.ontario.ca/page/find-earlyon-child-and-family-centre">EarlyON</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="https://www.toronto.ca/community-people/children-parenting/children-programs-activities/licensed-child-care/">Liscensed Child Care (Toronto)</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="http://www.mtc.gov.on.ca/en/libraries/oplweb.shtml">Ontario Public Libraries</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Research</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="https://www.canchild.ca/">CanChild</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="https://neonatalresearch.org/">Neonatal Research</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="http://www.neoknowledge.org/">Neoknowledge</a></li></ol></li><li><div class="panel-heading clickable"> <span class="pull-right panel-heading-collapsable-icon"> <i class="mdi mdi-chevron-down"></i></span> <h3>Funding</h3></div><ol class="list-group" style="display:none;"><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="http://www.children.gov.on.ca/htdocs/English/specialneeds/specialservices.aspx">Special Services at Home (Ontario)</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="http://www.children.gov.on.ca/htdocs/English/specialneeds/respite.aspx">Respite Care (Ontario)</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="http://www.children.gov.on.ca/htdocs/English/specialneeds/disabilities.aspx">Assistance for Chlidren with Severe Disabilities (Ontario)</a></li><li class="list-group-item"> <a class="overview-links" href="https://www.canada.ca/en/revenue-agency/services/child-family-benefits/child-disability-benefit.html">Child 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How to set limits (children up to 5 years of age)3880.00000000000How to set limits (children up to 5 years of age)How to set limits (children up to 5 years of age)HEnglishDevelopmentalBaby (1-12 months);Toddler (13-24 months);Preschooler (2-4 years)NANANAAdult (19+) CaregiversNA2020-06-19T04:00:00ZFlat ContentHealth A-Z<p>It is important to set limits with your child, starting at a young age. Learn about why children need limits, the challenges of limit setting and how to appropriately use consequences and time outs.</p><h2>Why do children need limits? </h2><p>Children need set limits for a number of reasons, including:</p><ul><li>To help make sure they are safe (e.g., don’t run into the road).</li><li>To help with certain activities (e.g., learning to socialize appropriately with others). </li><li>To optimize growth and development (e.g., sleeping through the night, eating nutritious meals). </li><li>To encourage self-regulation, which helps children calm themselves when they become frustrated or angry. Self-regulation helps with both little transitions (e.g., time for a nap) and big transitions (e.g., starting school).</li></ul><p>What you teach your child about limits will help them for the rest of their life. </p><div class="asset-video"> <iframe src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/WGsiQ5pF47o"></iframe> <br></div> <p></p><h2>Key points</h2><ul><li>Children need set limits for many reasons including to help make sure they are safe, to optimize growth and development and to encourage self-regulation.</li><li>The use of consequences helps teach children responsibility for their actions.</li><li>Time outs should only be used as a last resort; if a parent or caregivers uses time outs, they should use them in a consistent and structured way.</li></ul><h2>Challenges with limit setting </h2><p>Limit setting can be a challenge for all parents and may be especially difficult when a child has been hospitalized or has been unwell.</p><p>How children and parents react to limits will depend on: </p><ul><li>individual temperament</li><li>past relationships</li><li>the child’s experiences </li></ul><p>You can’t control how your child will react or feel about a situation, but you can help them learn how to express frustration and anger in a safe way.</p><p>Be comfortable setting limits with your child. You are keeping your child safe and helping to support their development. </p><p>Limit setting is most effective when used the same way between care providers (e.g., parents, daycare workers, grandparents). As much as possible, care providers should try to set limits consistently so the child knows what is expected of them. </p><h2>Using consequences </h2><p>Consequences help teach our children responsibility for what they do, allowing a method of controlled discipline. When using consequences with your child, consider the following:</p><ul><li>Give your child a choice to follow your instruction before giving them the consequence</li><li>Try to stay calm when giving the consequence.</li><li>Make sure you follow through with the consequence (e.g., taking away a favourite toy for a week is hard to enforce, but a few hours is more realistic).</li><li>Once the consequence is over, give your child a chance to do something helpful/positive, and praise them for it. </li><li>Show your child love and trust after a consequence. Remember, the correction is aimed at the behaviour, not the child. </li></ul><h2>Time-out tips </h2><p>Time outs should be used as a last resort. If you use time-outs as a consequence for you child, be consistent with how you use them and how the time out is structured. Here are other tips for conducting a time out:</p><ul><li>Time outs can start at approximately 2-3 years of age. </li><li>Time out should last approximately one minute per year of age, to a maximum of five minutes.</li><li>Pick an appropriate place for your child to be during their time out (e.g., not near a television or with their toys).</li><li>Give a brief explanation of what behaviour led to the time out.</li><li>Ignore the child during the time out. </li></ul><p>When time out is over, consider it a fresh start. Don’t talk about the unwanted behaviour again.</p><div class="row"><div class="col-md-6"> <a href="https://www.sickkidsfoundation.com/podcast"> <img src="https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/foundation_banners/SKF%20Logo-%28Standard%29_New_Small_FINAL.jpg" alt="SickKids VS Podcast link" style="margin-top:1rem;" /> </a> <p></p></div><div class="col-md-6"><p>SickKids VS takes you to the frontlines in the fight for child health, where big questions drive big breakthroughs: Where do we start when a child’s disease is unknown? Can we heal the brain? How should we talk to kids about dying? Behind each quest, is a remarkable family and story. <a href="https://www.sickkidsfoundation.com/podcast">Listen now</a> and subscribe.</p><p><a href="https://www.sickkidsfoundation.com/podcast/parentstress_2">HOW DO WE HELP PARENTS HELP THEIR KIDS? SickKids VS Parent Stress (Part 2)</a></p></div></div> <h2>References and additional information</h2><p> <a href="https://www.cps.ca/en/documents/position/positive-parenting" target="_blank">How clinicians can support positive parenting in the early years (2019)</a></p><p> <a href="https://www.caringforkids.cps.ca/handouts/positive-discipline-for-young-children" target="_blank">Positive discipline for young children (2020) </a></p><p> <a href="/article?contentid=714&language=english">AboutKidsHealth: Disciplining your child </a></p><p> <a href="https://www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019/advice-for-public/healthy-parenting" target="_blank">World Health Organization (2020) </a></p><p> <a href="https://www.imhpromotion.ca/">Infant Mental Health Promotion</a></p><p> <a href="http://www.impactparenting.com/storage/post-docs/PRIDE%20handout.pdf" target="_blank">Building Blocks of Behaviour</a></p><p> <a href="https://www.cdc.gov/parents/essentials/communication/specialplaytime.html" target="_blank">Centers for Disease Control and Prevention: Special Play Time </a><br></p>https://assets.aboutkidshealth.ca/AKHAssets/How_to_set_limits_(in_children_up_to_5_years_of_age).jpgHow to set limits (children up to 5 years of age)FalseHow to set limits for children Learn about why children need limits, the challenges of limit setting and how to appropriately use consequences and time outs.

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